When is cheating on your spouse with another person an okay thing?

When is cheating on your spouse with another person an okay thing?

Friday, October 15, 2010

It’s exactly 12am.

I’m sitting in my room after completing another presentation for the Gulf Information Technology Exhibition or otherwise popularly known as GITEX

I’m tired.

Fed up.

But satisfied that I completed something I am passionate about.

Now I begin doing something I should not do.

Think.

That too think when alone

And in the early part of a deep soulful night.

I open a word document.

And I look at the blank page

And the first sentence I write

Is this

When is cheating on your spouse with another person an okay thing?

Interesting.

Seriously.

A very interesting question.

Not just interesting.

Very intriguing.

Extremely intriguing.

The first answer that comes to mind is

The classic answer of a righteous and honest human being.

The one that operates with the axiom of a God fearing and God loving mentality.

And the answer is simply

‘never’

Oh, yes,

Then you have those defensive, self righteous, smartass people

Who give you the best one liner they can think of

And that is the over heard cliché

You should cheat on her

Only if you feel its okay for her to cheat on you.

I am like ‘DHUH – Really?’

Or may be a even better answer could be

‘Wow…you are so amazing….you opened my eyes!’

But come on

Honestly

Lets ask ourselves this very honest question

When is cheating on your spouse with another person an okay thing?

For a minute erase those defensive thoughts

Lower down your protective walls of one sided opinions

And just think

When?

(3 minutes pass by…..)

Hmmm…

Okay

I got a couple of valid reasons

1)      If your spouse is bad in bed.

2)      If your spouse does not know how to give you pleasure

3)      If you spouse give you a hard time

4)      If you are no longer in love with your spouse

5)      If you have….

Hey…wait a f**kin minute….

Lets go back and check what did I just type….

Hmmm hmmmm hmmmm

Hmmm…

Point number 4 seems….

‘interesting’

If you are no longer in love with your spouse…

But wait…

Where did the love go?

In fact, where did the love come from the first place?

Was it from the deepest part of a fictitious place we call as ‘heart’?

Was it from a hidden controversial part that we call our genetialia?

Was it from some ‘magic’ cosmic plan from some divine unknown, unseen and unheard of but firmly believed individual called ‘god’?

Sounds funny to be honest….

But no.

Wait…

Lets no divert from the topic

Let us go back to the topic

This ‘love’ bullshit is too deep and we can have this for another topic.

So coming back to our original topic…

When it is okay to cheat on your spouse.

The most sensible answer  

I can think of is….

When he or she doesn’t know about it

When he or she is not keeping you happy

When you can do it and keep it a secret

When you are doing it only for some harmless fun

I think then its okay.

But now hey….I can see you waiting to abuse those typical anti-male chauvinistic slogans on my dead body….

Yeah…Men are all bastards

Men are all the same

Men are like dogs…

And blah blah blah…

Oh shut the f**k up and listen…

And then begin your garabge…

Look around.

Look seriously around.

What is happening?

Men go to whore for paid sex

Men find other women to have fun with

Men enjoy life without being honest to their partners.

True.

Now if you are like most

You will say

SEE, LOOK…What did I tell you?

MEN…

They are the ones…

But over here

I would like to draw your humble ass attention to the sentence once again.

Men…okay…that is the first part…

Cheat….okay….that is the second part….

With whom?

Should I say it again?

Should I?

Here is the sentence again.

Men

Cheat

On their spouse

With

Whom?

And if its still not clear

Allow me to make it simpler

Men

Cheat

On

Their

FEMALE

With

Whom?

Ahh…..

Now I see your light blub getting brighter…

Men cheat on their female partner

WITH

Another female

So now

You have

The Male specie

Of the human evolution

Who anyways does not support the female race

Cheating on this female specie

With ANOTHER female.

So aren’t both

Men and women

Equal?

Seriously,

How can any man have the courage

To cheat on his spouse

With another woman

If the other woman

Would not have given him the permission

To do so the first place?

Can you see any possibility?

No my friend.

Never.

If any male tried to force a female into any act

It would be called the beautiful word that signified unwillingness

That was as we know it is called

Rape.

So its only when

A woman

Allows

A man

Who is committed

To another women

To get close to her

That this act takes place.

Yes,

There is a strong tendency to state

That this is wrong.

Wrong because you had a deal

To provide services

To only one owner

And now you are providing your ‘exclusive’ services

To more than one person.

You may be tempted to say

Then why should one be exclusive to another

If it doesn’t operate the same manner.

It is simply this

Life ain’t fair

It aint perfect

And it will never be that way.

I mean if this was the case

Why would so many men

Go to other women?

And why would so many women

Go with other men?

We live in a society that feels it is okay

To have one partner

At one particular time

And then break up with that partner

And slowly move to another one

That way the contract

Is severed

And a new contract is made

So no one is actually

‘cheated’

In the bargain

While there can be many possibilities

That this plan

Was made in a sinister but silent fashion

Much more ahead of time

And was executed now

Though there can be many possibilities to this fact

I would just state this

In a perfect world

No one would do anything wrong

Every thing would be perfect

And yes, we would all love things to be this way

But the fact of the matter is that it is not

The days of the man

Staying in a small village

With everyone knowing everyone else

Are long gone and done with

Today people have options

They have selections

They have temptations

And they have excessive awareness of the possibilities that they have never experienced

And the choices they never thought were possible

So sometimes

In the drive, desire and determination

To get the best of the best

Man or woman for that matter

Sometimes decides to go on the wild side

In my humble opinion

I believe there is sometimes a very thin line

Between good and bad

In as much as many would state

Good is good

And bad is bad

We seem to be living in a state of illusion

Where what we have is right

And what we consider is wrong

Sometimes may shift

Based on how the truth sometimes

Touches us or bites us

So in other words

It is hard to come up with a perfect answer.

So what is my final verdict then?

Well…at 12:37am

On Friday, October 15, 2010

After letting my thoughts run wild..

My answer to this deep dark dangerous question

Would be this.

I have lived a life where I have seen many friends and many acquaintances.

They all live their lives based on what they feel is right

Or what they feel is wrong

Am I to judge them?

Doesn’t really matter now does it?

I think what is right for me

Should be left to my conscious

And what is wrong should be left for me to deal with

Each one to his own

You should know what you want

And you should live your life accordingly

I just believe life was never fair

And never meant to be fair

So just do you thing

Knowing fully well what you are doing

And know that in the end

You should pay the price for what you are up to

And whatever you answer to the question may be

Just be sure

That if you never did it – there is nothing to think about.

But if you ever did cheat on your partner

Make sure your right hand didn’t know what the left hand was doing.

In that way

What was never known

Would never hurt anyone

And in the end

Everyone is happy

And that is where I conclude in the words I hardly believe and agree with most of the times.

Sometimes truly

Ignorance is a bliss.